Indian Youth are casual about sex
We have come a long way from the time when lovemaking scenes were portrayed by two flowers pecking each other or the scene faded out when the hero and heroine indulged in their intimate moments or the night just ended with the sunrise being reflected on the couples face. Love for the youth of today is different. It is explicit, it is more of open expression of one’s sexual needs rather than shying away from the typical ‘sharam haya ka ghoonghat’. They no longer have inhibitions about their sexual behavior. The scenario today is ‘Love, Sex Aur Dhokha’ where Emotional Atyachar is a reality.
Sex and the City and Desperate Housewives are the shows that the youth today have grown up on. Sex is no longer confined to the four walls of the Bedroom it is out in the living room on the TV sets with you viewing it with your family members. The mantra today is Khullam khulla pyar karenge hum dono. Casual sex relates to certain kinds of sexual activity beyond the romantic relationship framework.
Teenagers as young as fourteen years are indulging in sexual behavior and have no concern about admitting that they are sexually active and are ready to experiment with partners. There is a lot of pressure from all spheres and the extreme pressure is from their friends or peers. If they confirm to the standards set by the peer group then only they are accepted as a part of the group and if they rebel they are considered boring and not so cool. The pressure to confirm is landing young people in bed with changing partners every weekend. A girl says “For pleasure, I and my colleagues go to resorts every weekend. We are all conscious of our requirements and do not worry about being accessible to our requirements. If we meet our mental requirements, why should we refuse to meet our physical requirements”?
Swapping partners, casual sex, one night stands, relationships meant to only satisfy sexual needs are what the youth commonly indulges in. The pop culture or the so-called ‘in thing’ today makes the young people believe that sexual urges are to be pursued as an act of independence and explicit expression of personal needs. Physical satisfaction is summed up as ‘hooking up’. But the repercussions of these sexual relationships are much harder to swallow.
Films like Mixed Doubles, Fashion, Dostana, Dil Kabbaddi, Life in A Metro and Mumbai Salsa looked at fast emerging dysfunctional relationships breeding within young India. Sex is about discovery and linked with growing up especially amongst the youth. A recent study reveals that housewives bored by their routine life look for affairs outside their marriage. In reality, the lost spark that may have been snuffed out owing to marriage and monotony is often reignited by a one-night stand.
The growing independence among the generation today with easy money available has given the youth the power to experiment and feed their sexual needs with ease. A study says that more than a third of the respondents reported having sexual intercourse before the age of 18. With more money available and easy availability of partners who are ready for one night stands or casual affairs young people of both the sexes are pumped up to satisfy themselves. Cheap hotels, as well as resorts, have come up with offers for rooms at low rates on per hour basis where these youngsters regularly meet. These hotels also provide their customers with condoms if asked for.
A boy in his late teens says “Casual sex is better because there are no strings attached. Both partners indulging in the act are completely aware of their motive to be together and are clear about their status. There are no heartbreaks while sexual needs are well taken care of. It’s about being open about what you want and how far you are ready to go to satisfy yourself”. Although indulgence in casual sex is virtual reality the repercussions can be disastrous.
While sexual repercussions are many. HIV AIDS, STDs and other sexual problems are on the rise with increased sexual indulgence with different partners. It is important to make sure that you ask your sexual partner to use protection. It is better to be safe than to be sorry. Many girls allow their partners to continue the act without a condom for the fear of hurting the sentiments of the guy or for the fear of being betrayed. But the results are harmful. Popping contraceptives the next morning after intercourse to stay safe has become a common practice. Overuse of contraceptive pills has damaging effects on the woman’s body. Irregular periods, unwanted pregnancy, abortion are becoming regular.
It is a fact that needs acceptance that the youth of today has little or no inhibition about sex. What is required is compulsory sex education so that the youth can be made aware of responsible sex. Popping pills after every act leading to excessive use of contraceptive pills is harmful so is avoiding using a condom. Insist on your partner using a condom and get yourself tested for HIV AIDS and STDs before it’s too late. Protection is more important than satisfying your needs.